Self-Worth

Self-worth is not about ego. It's about getting unstuck.

What is ego? Ego can be defined as having self-centered likes, dislikes, opinions, tastes, desires, and aims. The core of the ego revolves around three things: I, me, mine...The true-selfꟷsource of peace and loveꟷignores the rigid boundaries and constraint of the ego personality. Without these limitations the true-self has no desperate, personal stake in the world. It only has the ability to love, create, and evolveꟷto grow & progress.

Case in point: for the longest time, I felt I was deserving of a six-figure salary, but I didn’t always align my thinking with my actions. I wasn’t living in alignment with who I was. Life is about who you are, not what you want. And until I aligned myself with my “true calling” (who I am), I kept my special talents, gifts, and ideas from being manifested and making an impact on the world. By being satisfied with doing what I wanted rather than living my purpose—the work the universe has given me to do—I allowed myself to accept a mediocre life based on a monetary value instead of working to build a purpose-driven value, something that contributes to humankind and in essence, the universe.

Although I knew I wasn’t getting paid what I was worth, I didn’t believe I was worthy. Even though I didn’t believe I was worthy of being paid more, I didn’t have the necessary confidence to consciously and subconsciously connect with the true “me”—the part of me that was calling me over and over again. I kept ignoring it until I eventually stopped listening. There was the chitter-chatter of “you can’t do this, you can’t have this, it’s not possible for you.” Once I stopped listening to my limitations, I decided to pursue what was inside of me—something special.

That “something special” was what the universe had offered and continues to present to me as it presents to us all. It is whatever our “true calling” is in life, what opens the door to our greatness. This is what the universe wants to bring to us. But until we finally stop and listen to our dreams, we are not able to take the first step to acting on that offer.

So, it was not what I wanted that was the issue, it was what I was. I didn’t want a six-figure salary because when I eventually got it, I still wasn’t satisfied. Even though I had achieved (pursued and attained) a number of things in my life, I didn’t feel successful (state of being).

In that sense, self-worth is about getting unstuck in a specific way...the way of desire. When you feel worthy, you believe you should have and can have the good things in life. Not in material terms but in terms of lasting fulfillment.

Having limited or low self-worth requires the suppression of desire. You do everything you can to keep positive changes from happening in your life and thus, the things you deeply want such as love, beauty, grace and the validity of your own truth. That "validity" gets pushed away when you suppress that desire.

Don't allow your ego to suppress your desire to get unstuck...You don't get in life what you want; you get in life what you are.